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Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Women's History Month: Dr. Maya Angelou


Hey Y'all:


As my final post for Women's History Month I would like to celebrate Dr. Maya Angelou.


I recently re-read "I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings" and fell in love with Dr. Angelou all over again.


Once I read something by an author I go on a quest to find something recent that she/he has written. While scanning the shelves of my local library a few months ago I stumbled upon "Letter To My Daughter" by Maya Angelou.


This book is dedicated to the daughter that Dr. Angelou never had “I gave birth to one child, a son, but I have thousands of daughters. You are Black and White, Jewish and Muslim, Asian, Spanish speaking, Native Americans and Aleut. You are fat and thin and pretty and plain, gay and straight, educated and unlettered, and I am speaking to you all. Here is my offering to you.”–from Letter to My Daughter


As one of her daughters I found this collection of stories to be thought provoking, eye opening and life altering. The lessons she shares from her own life made me smile and a few times shed a tear. I was so moved by this collection that I passed it on to my friend before it was due back to the library.


Maya Angelou was born Marguerite Ann Johnson on April 4th 1928. Raised between St. Louis, MO and Stamps, AK where she experienced racial discrimination, but was also absorbed in a close knit African American community, with unshakable faith and values. As a teenager Dr. Angelou won a scholarship to study dance and drama at San Francisco's Labor School. At 14 she dropped out of school and became the first African American cable car conductor in San Francisco history. Dr. Angelou was a trailblazer even from youth. Although she mothered a child young, she still lived a full life. She toured Europe, studied modern dance with Martha Graham and danced with Alvin Ailey. She recorded an album, was a member of the Harlem writers guild, has lived in Cairo, Egypt; speaks French, Spanish, Italian, Arabic and the West African language Fanti.


Dr. Angelou has written more than 30 bestselling titles, appeared in numerous films and made for TV movies. She has written screen plays and acted Off-Broadway. Dr. Angelou has been nominated for a Pulitzer Prize and has received over 30 Honorary Degrees.


She has served on two presidential committees and was requested to read a poem at the 1993 inauguration of President Clinton. She was awarded the Presidential Medal of Arts in 2000, The Lincoln Medal in 2008 and has received 3 Grammy awards. Dr. Angelou is truly a
Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies. I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size

But when I start to tell them,They think I'm telling lies. I say, It's in the reach of my arms

The span of my hips, The stride of my step, The curl of my lips.

I'm a woman Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman, That's me.

I walk into a room just as cool as you please, and to a man, the fellows stand or fall down on their knees.

Then they swarm around me, A hive of honey bees. I say,It's the fire in my eyes, And the flash of my teeth,The swing in my waist,And the joy in my feet.

I'm a woman Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,That's me.

Men themselves have wondered what they see in me.They try so much but they can't touch my inner mystery.When I try to show them they say they still can't see.

I say, It's in the arch of my back,

The sun of my smile,

The ride of my breasts,

The grace of my style.

I'm a woman Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman, That's me.

Now you understand just why my head's not bowed.

I don't shout or jump about or have to talk real loud. When you see me passing it ought to make you proud.

I say, It's in the click of my heels, The bend of my hair,the palm of my hand, The need of my care,

'Cause I'm a woman Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman, That's me.

Maya Angelou


Until next time...

MUAH!

Monday, March 29, 2010

The Nana Effect

Hey Y'all:

My oldest son Erick is in love with my mother. From the day he was born he has looked at her like she was something good to eat. It didn't help any when she introduced him to his first taste of sweet potato, which she of course shared on her finger.

At five years old he still loves her just as intensely and shows it whenever she comes to visit us from N.C. and heads back home. I share this because we had a bit of a Nana episode the other night.

I was sitting on my bed and reached out for my boy. He came and I gave him a great big hug (I was having a mommy moment) during the hug I said, "ohhhhhhhhhhhh I love my Erick," my precious boy says "ohhhhhhhhhh I love my nana." Of course I was outraged, hurt, confused and a little sad. Here I was having a mommy moment, expressing my love for him verbally and this little ball of testosterone says "I love my nana" this gave me flashbacks of our 'private time' day when he told me that he loves his daddy 12 and me 5! I just can't win.

Why can't I get the same love???? I know he loves me but I guess it's not the same as Nana love. I really have to get over it. Maybe when he turns 15 I won't feel so bad when he loves some little chippy over me and his nana?

What have your children said that has hurt, offended or floored you?

Until next time...
MUAH!

Twin Tuesday: Happy Birthday



Hey Y'all:

Sunday, April 4th marks the 2nd birthday of Leah and Myles. As I type this I'm really in awe. I cannot believe that just 3 short years ago I called my mom and told her that we were having twins. Then 34 weeks later I called her the Tuesday before they were born and said my c-section was scheduled for that Friday which just happened to be her birthday!

Leah and Myles are a wonderful blessing to our family and bring us so much joy. I would never have imagined that I would have twins. I prayed really hard for Erick so having another child; twins at that was so beyond anything I could imagine.

Now that they are here I can't imagine my life without them. Erick is the ultimate big brother, they fuss and fight but will get upset with us if we do something to either one of them.

Leah and Myles - Mommy loves you and prayers that you won't give us too much trouble during your terrible twos phase! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Until next time...
MUAH!

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

VACATION: Cali here we come...

Hey Y'all:

While watching NickJr last night a song came on about going on a trip.


Erick asked me if we went on vacation yet and I told him no, but we are going on vacation in April.

"where mommy" he asked
"to California" I said
"California that's great" he said
"where's California?" he then asked

He was too cute with his mock excitement about a trip to a place he didn't know anything about. I explained where California is and that we were going to take a plane to get there. He was really excited to hear that we would go to the airport and wanted to know if we were going after school today. After that bit of the discussion he thought about California some more and then it clicked, to him California is where Red Car (Lightening McQueen from Disney's Cars) lives. It's where the Piston Cup race was held!

"Mommy can we see Red Car" he asked.
"Yes we can. Mommy is going to make you a count down calendar so you can count the days until our trip."

Needless to say my little boy is really excited about our upcoming California vacation to Disneyland, Disney's California Adventure, Legoland, Sea World and Universal Studios! I think I'm more excited though as he's much older this time around for a Disney trip and will really enjoy himself.

Here is the calendar I created... whatchathink?















Until next time...
MUAH!

Womens History Month: A Little Romance



Hey Y'all:

Women's History Month is quickly coming to an end. I hope that you have celebrated the women in your life who have been influential in who you are today.

As my next to the last post in honor of women I'd like to celebrate a romance author!
Honey Women DOMINATE this genre of literature... check out this awesome list of novels, it includes some classics and plenty of contemporary titles are list. I think this is a great list but it doesn't cover the novels that I have read and really come to enjoy.

I haven't always read romance novels but when I discovered Sandra Brown I was converted. I had no idea that this awesome author wrote romance novels way back in the day. Her novels are all really sweet but my all time favorite romance author is Brenda Jackson!

Mrs Jackson has written novels with seven publishing houses with a total of over 80 books! The first novel I read by her was from The Bennett Family Series - A Family Reunion. This book intrigued me because of the family name; Bennett is my maiden name! This novel was so good I went on a search for all books written by Mrs. Jackson! The one thing I love about these novels is how Mrs. Jackson connects all of the stories through series. She has about four major families that she writes stories around and I love just about all of them.

If you are in the market for a quick spicy read pick up a Brenda Jackson novel!
Here are my top 5:


  1. A Family Reunion


  2. Whispered Promises


  3. Thorn's Challenge


  4. Stone Cold Surrender


  5. Solid Soul


Hope you pick up one of Mrs. Jackson's books soon.



Until next time...


MUAH!

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Childhood Illness: You'll Never Guess this One!

Hey Y'all:

I've learned something over the past week. Measles, mumps and chickenpox are all very easy to detect but Scarlet Fever is not! My oldest has scarlet fever! I know it's not 1810 it's 2010 and scarlet fever is still a childhood illness that children are capable of contracting. Scarlet Fever is a type of strep throat.

When Erick told us that his gums were hurting, we thought for sure his two front teeth which have been out since he was 3; were finally coming in. I thought for sure his pain and slight fever had to do with a 'teething' five year old! Oh was I wrong. I noticed a tiny rash appear on his face. I thought maybe he was having an allergic reaction to something. I called my mom and told her what was going on and she thought he might be getting Chickenpox.

I remember chickenpox and I know the bumps aren't small, but look a little like pimples with puss inside of them. So I ruled that out (this was all taking place Friday night - Saturday) I decided to ride it out because he wasn't in pain besides his gums and he was really sleepy. Fast forward to Saturday and he wasn't looking or feeling any better, actually he was getting worse... the little bumps or rash on his face spread to his 'trunk' I knew something was WRONG. I called his pediatrician and told her want was going on. She too thought he might be having an allergic reaction and suggested that we give him Benadryl and watch him. That did absolutely nothing. His mouth was hurting even more and his tongue was taking on a 'strawberry' look, time to go to the Dr!

First thing Monday morning the hubby took my big boy to the Dr. where he was diagnosed with Scarlet Fever. I was floored! In this day and age you just don't hear about a scarlet fever out break. Needless to say he is now on antibiotics and doing MUCH better. I'm watching the twins to make sure they don't end up with it. Unfortunately, like most childhood illness; there is no guarantee that they won't get this... so I just have to watch them like a hawk.

Here are the symptoms for Scarlet Fever... keep your eyes open!
  • Rash
  • Abdominal pain
  • Bright red patches in the creases of the forearm and groin
  • Chills
  • Fever
  • Headache
  • Muscle Aches
  • Sore Throat
  • Swollen Red Tongue (strawberry tongue)
  • Vomiting

Have you had any surprising illness? Do share...

Until next time...
MUAH!

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Work/Life Balance My List


Hey Y'all:


I am a working mom. I love and appreciate stay at home moms but working outside the home is a choice that I made out of necessity and desire. Necessity because my husband owns his own business without health benefits and desire because I always wanted to be a part of corporate America and didn't want to give that up when I became a mom...


With this choice there is a constant struggle to find the balance between work and life (life for me is my family and everything outside of my 9-6). So here is MrsDeveter's list on making this journey worth living.


1. Know when to say NO! This goes for work and home... you have to know when enough is too much! You have to be able to tell your boss "no I can't stay late today but I can come in a little earlier tomorrow to finish this project ." No at home can happen when family members are asking you to do things that you just don't want or have time to do. Saying no is big on my list and I think I've pretty much mastered it.


2. Realize your role. My friend and I always use the line "stay in your lane." Sometimes it's difficult at home and work to only do the things that you are responsible for. At home if your job is to take out the trash ... take out the trash. Don't sweep the floor, do the dishes and forget to take out the trash. You have to complete the work that is assigned to your hands. If you stay in your lane you won't be exhausted at the end of the day. This goes for home and work. If your job is to make copies and hand them out... do just that... don't read the copy and point out all the errors to the person who asked you to make the copies. That is their job.... STAY IN YOUR LANE!


3. Take a time out . This is really important to me. Even I work I take about 15 mins outside of my (unpaid) lunch to give myself a break. If you are a stay at home parent you need to do the same thing. When the other parent makes their appearance or when your little one finally takes a nap, you need to give yourself a time out! Spring is upon us, take a walk around the block, go to the gym something, read a chapter in that novel you started six months ago do something for YOU. Having time for yourself helps to take a step back and look at things from a different perspective. It gives you balance.


4. Recognize you can't do it all. Sometimes even the things that are assigned to you can be too much. Recognize that you are human and you can't do it all and you certainly can't be all things to all people. Realize and vocalize your limits and don't feel bad about it.


5. Have fun. The best balance in work/life is enjoying whatever you do. Whether it is working or taking care of your family. Enjoy it and give it your all. Apply items 1-4 and then fun and you have a very good balance in your life. The scale won't always be even but make sure that a portion of fun is always included.


What is the one thing you do to make sure you have balance in your life?


Until next time...

MUAH!