Thursday, May 30, 2013

Five Reasons Why My Children Won't be on Facebook Until 16+

Hey Y'all,

I haven't done a Five reasons why post in forever. Today's post is prompted by an article I read about yet another young person who took their life because of cyber bulling.

5 Reasons Why My Children Won't be on Facebook
 (or any other social media site) Until 16+

I of course searched the net for legal reasons etc and found a great article on Your Sphere For Parents which lists Three Good Reasons Why Your Child Shouldn't Be on Facebook, which are privacy, inappropriate content, and COPPA which is an Internet privacy law called The Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act. COPPA, was put in place for a reason: to protect the personal information of children online. I work in advertising and clients were often upset that they couldn't target 13 year old girls for products they were trying to market to children. It's DANGEROUS to have young children on line point blank PERIOD!

Here are MrsDeveter's 5 reasons why my children won't be on Facebook (or any other social media site) are as follows.

  1. Sexual Predators - Men and women are still trolling the internet looking for willing participants to fulfill their sexual desires. They are seeking out unassuming young people who are clueless about their last history test so forget about someone making sexual advances on them. A 13 year old girl should NOT be posting pictures of herself in a bikini in the dressing room of Abercrombie and Fitch! I don't care if you are standing right there as she snaps the shot it just shouldn't be done. Pedophiles are real! They are abusing our children and many are causing parents like this mother to almost kill them. My children will not be put in a position where they are unsafe. So nope they won't be on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube or the like for a very long time.
  2. Cyber Bulling - It shouldn't be but it's REAL and most times it begins with a photo. Camera phones in my opinion are the WORST and best thing that ever happened to mobile devices. I am a picture taker. I find myself snapping shots on average five to six times a day, forget about if we are on an outing it's way more. Children however can find themselves in bad situations, post a picture of someone without their knowledge and shed a negative light on them. A young girl made a bad decision to participate in a end of summer party, got drunk, passed out and boys took advantage of her sexually. Pictures were posted to Facebook and the young woman took her life. Now there is a family without a child and some more parents who children have been charged with a crime. Don't get me wrong the girl could have still gone to the party, gotten drunk and been photographed without the use of social media. The fact is social media WAS used and her life was put on display for all to see. She felt degraded for something she couldn't even remember and ended her life because of the shame. 

Thursday, May 23, 2013

Hello - My Very First Vlog

Hey y'all,

I know it's been a while. I really haven't had time to write so here's is a quick hello via video. My very first vlog. Which I think I'll do more often.

Thursday, May 2, 2013

True Love

Hey Y'all,

"Truly" was the last spelling word on my 8 yr old's list for homework one night. "My dad is truly in love with my mom" was the sentence he came up with.

My husband and I hug, kiss and show plenty of affection towards one another in the presence of our children. Our youngest son 'screams like a girl' (his words not mine) when ever we kiss in front of him. Our daughter say's 'do it again' and my oldest apparently just watches. He knows what love is. He knows that his mom and dad may have lively discussions (we don't argue) and even disagree but he know's that his dad is truly in love with his mom and vice versa.

I didn't grow up with my dad in the house and didn't see him everyday. I didn't see my parents kiss or show one another affection.Aside from my mom preparing my dads meal with care I can't say that I ever saw the affection a man gave to a woman.

I'm blessed and I know it. I'm blessed because my husband and I are able to give our children everything that we lacked in the area of marriage and relationship as children. I pray that our children continue to see our love and know that's it right to show affection toward their loved ones. I posted this picture on my Facebook page and I now have 66 likes! I'm glad that others appreciate what I have and am proud to share.

Until next time...

A Mother's Hands - Author Unknown

Hey y'all,

I read this post on a friends Facebook page today and thought it appropriate to share on my blog. As a mother I found this to be very profound and thought provoking. It caused me to mentally evaluate the way I'm raising my children. Let me know what you think.

One young man went to apply for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the initial interview, and now would meet the director for the final interview.

The director discovered from his CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent. He asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "no".

" Was it your father who paid for your school fees?"

"My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.” he replied.

" Where did your mother work?"

"My mother worked as clothes cleaner.”

The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

" Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?"

"Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Besides, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said, "I have a request. When you go home today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back home, he asked his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to her son.