Thursday, September 30, 2010

14 Years and Counting: Communication is Key!

Hey Y'all:

Next Tuesday marks my 14th wedding anniversary! My hubby and I have been together for almost 20 years and Lord knows I'm still in love. The #1 reason why we have been together for so long and are the best of friends is because our lines of communication are always open. We are in constant conversation about any and everything; from world news to our oldest child's latest school project; we talk about it all. During the summer while our children were away with my mom we rekindled some of that conversation and would chat about our future late into the night. I love that man so much and wish that all of my sister friends could be as blessed as I am.

This brings me to the latest book written by Hill Harper (you know that fine Black actor from CSI:NY and classmate of President Obama) THE CONVERSATION is a title written for African American singles and is all about relationships. Hill speaks about the things that need to be done before finding a good relationship; and about the finger pointing that takes place in our community that are untrue and hurtful such as: “There are no good Black men out there” or “All black men are players” or “Black women are negative or too independent” or “Black women are gold diggers.” he says that these staments are general and lump people into categories and have been very destructive."

Hill also speaks about having an honest conversation with yourself. A conversation with self is a major step in figuring out what you want in a mate. You must ask yourself the hard questions and be truthful with your wants, needs and desires.

If you are ready to start the conversation please enter this contest to win a copy of the book.

I’m offerring 4 copies to a random commenter who answers the question “The worst pick up line you've ever heard/used" i.e. what is a fine woman like you doing in a place like this?"

This contest closes Friday 10/8. I can’t wait to see your entries!

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Until next time...


Disclosure: I’ve been compensated for my time and efforts to help spread the word about Hill’s book. I think this book topic is one that needs to be had in every community not just African American but because I am a Black woman I agreed to promote this book in hopes that my single friends can gain some insight on what they need to do to meet and marry their God created mate.

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Twin Tuesday: Making of the Band

Hey Y'all:

No words today just a glimpse into the fun house.

Until next time...


Monday, September 27, 2010

Extended School Year... Yay or Nah?

Hey Y'all:

Just saw this article title on NewsOne and had to do a post -- President Obama: School year must be extended by month for US students to compete with China, India

I get it and I totally agree but here is my opinion. I think that if there weren't so many breaks during the school year there wouldn't be a need for another month of school. In NYC the children are out of school for Midwinter recess in February and then spring break in April. This after Thanksgiving break in Nov and Winter recess in Dec. both of those I get and totally agree with but the others I don't think are needed. A Monday off here and there should do it. Why do we take week long breaks? On another note how will this additional month be planned? What does this mean for teachers? Will they receive salary increases? Will schools be AC equiped? I think there is a lot to consider before clicking the DONE button. Just my opinion...

What do you think? Answer my homepage poll.

Until next time...

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Open Letter to greeting card buyers: Father's Matter!

Dear Buyer:

I walked into my neighborhood Walgreens yesterday to pick up a quick card for my husbands birthday. I was specifically looking for a card from my babies to their Dad. I walked down the aisle and saw plenty of cards for mom, mommy, grandma, Nana (in English and Spanish) but I was hard pressed to find a card from the kids to their dad.

I was perplexed. You see I live in a neighborhood with home owners and folks with full time jobs. An area where dads drop their kids off at school and pick them up afterward. I live in an area populated with families -- Mommy's, Daddy's and Kids! So why couldn't I find a card for my husband from my children. I walked out of that Walgreens and thought perhaps they were just short stocked, and went to the Walgreens closer to my home.

Monday, September 13, 2010

OGS: Obsessive Grandmother Syndrome

Hey Y'all:

I am extremely blessed and I know it. My mother is the best Nana in the world; as you know she fully potty trained all three of my children, took care of them during the summer and is connected to them like I could never imagine. My mother in law loves her grandchildren with all her heart and will do anything within her power for them. Their great-grandmother loves to see them come and rejoices when they go (they are too busy for her) but thankfully all three of these wonderful women know their boundaries. They know that they are the grandparents and not the parents. They discipline when we are not around and fall back when we are.

Silly Nuggets

Hey Y'all:

What is the #1 fast food restaurant that children automatically recognize?

McDonald's - who could pass by the huge arches and funny looking clown! Not me when I was 2 and certainly not my three little Brown's. On any given out and about day my kiddies will announce that they are hungry, as soon as they pass by our friendly neighborhood Mickey D's. Well no more McNuggets for the three little Brown's not after the article I read last week!

While perusing my daily Black News site; NewsOne I came across an article about McDonald Chicken Nuggets. The headline made my stomach turn! McDonald’s McNuggets Made With ‘Silly Putty’ Chemical. Yes silly putty the stuff we used to play with as kids. It's like rubber but not.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Adoption Wednesday: Alternatives

Hey Y'all:

So everyone isn't cut out to be a parent. Fine. You don't want to adopt and child or even a pet here are some other options to adoption that will help those less fortunate then you and cause you to feel good.

Adopt a Class or a School - People who adopt a class or school provide the additional teaching materials needed in creating the educational foundation some children are missing. Classrooms will be provided with educational materials that range from basic items to wish list items. If you can't find an organization in your area why not start one! I found two online click here and here.

Adopt a Highway - This is perfect for business and services. It helps keep the roads clean and can get you new clients! Why not?

Adopt Wildlife - You can adopt a tiger, sea turtle and even a duck-billed platypus. No, it's not gonna come home with you they are endangered species after all. A Gift to WWF That Helps Where It Matters Most. Show your heart and share your values. Now you can give the special people in your life the pride of knowing they are doing something special for the future.

These are just a few alternatives but the best adoption is to adopt a child. Remember to check out Adoptuskids.

Until next time...

Back to School Business

Hey Y'all:

I took some time today to download the school calendar for the year and I'm a little perturbed. Why I ask do our children start school on a Wednesday and then they are off for Thursday and Friday? Is it me or is that just dumb? Why not just start school the first Monday after Labor Day and Rosh Hashanah?

Any who I think my kid is ready to get back to learning! Just about every morning the past couple of days he's been up at 6 a.m. and has seen me off to work. Of course he asks... "mommy do I go to school today?" I'm really hoping that he's ready for the 1st grade. I have so many mixed emotions about him starting the number grades. I'm excited, scared and relieved all at the same time. I'm confident that he's going to have a great year and I'm praying for a wonderful teacher who will help develop his skills and advance his reading skills. This year I have a few things I'm determined to do. Here's my list (y'all know I love lists right?)